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jmfargo ([personal profile] jmfargo) wrote2008-11-14 09:55 am

A Note To A Teacher

All my extra energy for the past few months has been spent in the pursuit of learning the Arabic language. When I'm walking down the halls at the college I get funny looks from people wondering why I'm concentrating so hard that I look constipated while muttering strange syllables under my breath. Worse than that is when I'm actually sitting in my chair and actively studying. It's like the world disappears around me, and there's nothing but the Arabic language in front of me. It got so bad, one night, that my wife asked me to please stop clearing my throat so loudly. The worst part is that I was in another room, with the door closed, and music playing so that I wouldn't disturb her.

Why is it, then, that I'm constantly feeling unprepared for class?

When there's a test, my brain panics, I start to freeze. An oral presentation to be given in class? I stand up in front of the other students, and feel as though I haven't learned the simplest forms of English, let alone Arabic.

Why is it? Well, for that I'm looking right at you, teach.

See, I know you haven't been teaching at this school very long, and that you love to spout off about how at Yale and Harvard the students were never late for class, never absent, but apparently there are a few things you missed realizing along the way. Let me help you here. Maybe if you listen to my advice you'll last longer at the University of Delaware than you did at those prestigious schools you like to name-drop. Here goes:

1) SHUT UP ABOUT HARVARD AND YALE!
~Obviously something happened and you're not working there any more, so every time you mention how much better the students were there, all I can wonder is why you're not still there, why you decided to move to a smaller, less famous/interesting/studious school. Every time you bring them up, all I see is failure in your eyes.

2) When you tell your students that a test is going to be specifically on a, b, and c, it's kind of rude to add subjects d and e.
~Especially when we haven't covered e. It's gotten to the point where students just don't believe you when you say that certain things are going to be on the test. Most just shrug and don't bother studying, because most of the time you don't even have a or b on the test. When asked, you say you "decided to go with something different at the last minute." Really? Did they teach you that at Harvard?

3) Making a student cry in class is not "shaking them up to be a better student," it's inappropriate.
~Giving them a hug afterward doesn't make it all better.

That's all I've got right now for you. Maybe I'll think of a few things later. The worst part is that when you're not actively teaching, you seem like a genuinely nice and caring person. I don't know why it is that the second you step into your authority mode you become inept, cruel, and down-right scary to your class.

Oh. One more:

4) In a class that's about talking in a foreign language, remember that if you intimidate us into silence we'll find it very difficult to speak, even in our native tongue.
~I'm 28 years old, comfortable and secure with myself. I'm a decade older than most kids in the class. All this together, and you still intimidate the hell out of me. I never want to speak up, even when I know I have the right answer, because of your attitude. I can't imagine what these kids go through.

Please, take this to heart. You've only been at our school for two semesters, and from the looks of things, I'm not sure you're going to last there much longer. It's obvious to us that you hate where you are; make some kind of change before it's made for you by the school.

Thanks. I hope this helps. Like I said, I think you're a nice person, you're just a horrid teacher. Good luck, and be well.

M'asselema.

[identity profile] caninespirit.livejournal.com 2008-11-14 04:05 pm (UTC)(link)
unfortunately, i see this so often from higher education professors. It's frustrating and sad. The students are hear to learn - not to be intimidated to tears or so frustrated they land in my office fighting for their rights.

[identity profile] jfargo.livejournal.com 2008-11-14 04:31 pm (UTC)(link)
I can't imagine what I would have been going through had I been in this class 10 years ago. At that point in your life everything's so mixed up and jumbled that to add a teacher like this just makes it that much worse, and it's not good. I'm just glad I'm a little more in control of my life, otherwise she'd terrify me, not just intimidate me.

[identity profile] caninespirit.livejournal.com 2008-11-14 04:33 pm (UTC)(link)
yeah some of the freshmen that come into my office seem like babies. I don;t think its that i'm ten years older than most of them either. They're really young emotionally.

[identity profile] jfargo.livejournal.com 2008-11-14 04:35 pm (UTC)(link)
Ten years ago I wouldn't have agreed with the statement I'm about to make, but now it's true: At 18, most people not only don't really know what they want to do with their life, they don't even know what they want to do tomorrow.

That makes life a lot tougher to live, because as humans I think we like to feel as though we have some kind of control. When you don't know what you want, you're out of control, and...sorry...I'm rambling. I know you get what I'm saying.

[identity profile] caninespirit.livejournal.com 2008-11-14 05:21 pm (UTC)(link)
completely get it. This is why i often advocate junior college before full four year university. Most 18 year olds today need those two years to grow up. I'll join the club of making statements i too would not have made ten years ago with that one.

[identity profile] jfargo.livejournal.com 2008-11-14 05:23 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm actually eternally grateful that I took time to experience life outside of a school environment, and then started my higher education. It gives me a different perspective, and gave me a chance to see what I really do want to do with my life.

Of course, 9 years was a little longer than I meant to wait, but these things happen. Especially to procrastinators. Like me.

[identity profile] caninespirit.livejournal.com 2008-11-14 05:37 pm (UTC)(link)
yeah i'm super glad for the two year break i took between undergrad and grad school. Really helped me figure out how to get to where I am now. Not everyone has that luxury, but I'm greatful that I did. Those two years taught me more than the three and a half it took me to complete my undergrad ever could.

[identity profile] kmg-365.livejournal.com 2008-11-14 06:36 pm (UTC)(link)
At 18, most people not only don't really know what they want to do with their life, they don't even know what they want to do tomorrow

When my baby sister was looking at colleges, we took her to a tour of a college near our home. At the beginning of the tour, the guide - a student, natch - asked if everyone knew what they were going to major in. Everyone except my sister raised their hand. Some did so rather enthusiastically. I noticed my sister was feeling embarrassed that she didn't raise hers.

"You know something," I said to my sister in a conversational tone so most of the other people on the tour could hear me, "I'd bet that the majority of these people will change their major their freshman year. So don't worry about it - they just think they know what they want to do."

My wife agreed. It made my sister feel better.

It wasn't us being snarky - it was us speaking from experience. Why would someone expect an 18-year-old to know what they were going to do for the rest of his or her life?

[identity profile] jfargo.livejournal.com 2008-11-14 07:10 pm (UTC)(link)
Yup, exactly. My wife switched her major something like 4 times before graduating with a degree that didn't really matter; it was the experience and contacts she made that helped her be successful more than the piece of paper.

Hell, I'm 28 and have no idea what I'm going to major in. I just know I like learning.