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jmfargoMaria and I have separated in hopes that distance and time apart might help to fix things between us. I'm in Rochester for the moment, living with a good friend who drove 7 hours one way to pick me up on Sunday, then endured the 7 hour drive all the way back here that night.
This was going to be a long post explaining everything that happened in excruciating detail as I've seen it but I realized that that's not going to help anyone. Here's the bare-bones of it:
We decided to become polyamorous about 7 months ago. Our relationship was strong, we trust each other and communicate well*. Life was good.
Stuff happened. Maria realized I might not be the person she wants to be married to. Not that there's anyone waiting in the wings, just that I wasn't as steady, ambitious, and well-grounded as she would want me to be. Neither of us knows where we belong in the other person's life anymore. I moved out. Maybe I'll move back in but things have to happen on both sides of the relationship before that even becomes a possibility.
We're working on it. I'll be out of the house for at least 2 months. My two big goals are to get in shape and to find a job. If I stay out here longer I'll need to find a way to become independent and get a place of my own. Not because my friend would be kicking me out but because I'm just a guy that likes a place to call his own.
Questions? Comments? Concerns? Comment or email me. I'll answer anything. Oh, and if you're in the WNY area, I'm definitely looking for some company over the next few days, weeks, whatever. I came out this way to be around the people I know and care about and would love to see you.
*Why yes, I did switch from past-tense to present-tense in one sentence. In this case I find it appropriate.
This was going to be a long post explaining everything that happened in excruciating detail as I've seen it but I realized that that's not going to help anyone. Here's the bare-bones of it:
We decided to become polyamorous about 7 months ago. Our relationship was strong, we trust each other and communicate well*. Life was good.
Stuff happened. Maria realized I might not be the person she wants to be married to. Not that there's anyone waiting in the wings, just that I wasn't as steady, ambitious, and well-grounded as she would want me to be. Neither of us knows where we belong in the other person's life anymore. I moved out. Maybe I'll move back in but things have to happen on both sides of the relationship before that even becomes a possibility.
We're working on it. I'll be out of the house for at least 2 months. My two big goals are to get in shape and to find a job. If I stay out here longer I'll need to find a way to become independent and get a place of my own. Not because my friend would be kicking me out but because I'm just a guy that likes a place to call his own.
Questions? Comments? Concerns? Comment or email me. I'll answer anything. Oh, and if you're in the WNY area, I'm definitely looking for some company over the next few days, weeks, whatever. I came out this way to be around the people I know and care about and would love to see you.
*Why yes, I did switch from past-tense to present-tense in one sentence. In this case I find it appropriate.
