Always Asking What If

[jmfargo]

When I started working at First Data, doing check processing data entry, Maria and I decided to keep our relationship between the two of us in order to discourage thoughts that I may have gotten the job through inappropriate means. Of course, this was despite the fact that Maria was a temp worker as well at that time, and couldn't really have influenced my ability to get a job there anyways, but that's beside the point.

So, over time our relationship has been exposed, simply because I wouldn't lie when asked about it directly. First one person found out, and in about a week everyone seemed to know, which was fine, because this was a month or so into the job. I had already shown that I was good at my job, and neither Maria nor I allowed our personal relationship to affect our work relationship beyond going on breaks together.

My boss has actually even commented on the fact that he's happy to see that Maria and I do not allow our relationship to affect our work ethics, and that he's also happy that I'm a hard worker. It never occured to me, at the beginning, that if I didn't work out there might be some uncomfortable things going on at work with Maria and our coworkers, only because people tend to talk with someone gets let go. I'm glad that problem hasn't arisen, and that Mike wasn't upset about the slight deception at the beginning.

Through the magic that is my workplace, I have met some interesting people, not the least of which are Tim, a fellow D&D player who is getting into the swing of being a live-action roleplayer by playing games like Dagorhir, and my aforementioned boss, Mike, who might be getting interested in Dagorhir, but has to find his killer urge again. I love it when work brings people closer together by bringing them into a game where you get to smack each other around.

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[akdidge.livejournal.com]

This is more about my situation, which is similar to yours. You can read it or not, it's up to you.


I've been working my job for going on 4 years now. My last girlfriend I actually found through this job. She wasn't a direct employee under me, but rather in a roundabout sort of way I guess you could say she was. She was an employee of the contractor (who is off-site) of which I oversee. I kept it very professional, including when I asked her out I made sure both of us were off the clock and that there was no repercussions had she said no.

We kept it very quiet for awhile because of the potential for gossip, but like you I won't lie if asked a question directly. Soon her boss found out. She was happy that her employee was happy, and also glad to see that our work relationship was first and foremost. I asked her to only bring this up with my boss if it became a problem. I dated her for nine months before we broke up. All the while my boss (nor anyone in my office) were unaware of my dating her. I won't say the break up was all roses, but we maintained ourselves appropriately while at work, and for that I am glad. She was a bit frosty towards me but we worked around our feelings when we ran face-to-face afterward while at the job. She quit shortly after because of some other issues that arose. In private though during this period she wouldn't even speak to me. To be fair, it was me who broke it off. I didn't think we were headed in the same direction and we both disagreed on alot of important things in our relationship, including pre-marital relations. It has taken me over a year and she is now just getting to the point where she'll talk to me again outside of work.

Anyway when I started dating someone else from there, again I acted professionally first and asked this one out on both our times away from work. At first she said no. I was ok with this and went about my way. A week or so later she called me up and asked me out, as friends. We've been a couple now for almost two years. She told me at first she had been dating someone long distance and it didn't work out. Then after I had asked her out, and she said no, seeing that I had held my word and not let it affect our work relationship she thought I might be "datable."

My boss eventually found out who I was dating and he was extremely upset with me. I frankly told him who I date on my off time is none of his concern and that I've handled myself very appropriately while at work. He checked with her supervisor and she confirmed both of our work ethics and attitudes, and that of my past ex. He was still upset, but he seemed relieved a little.

So now you know even more Didge-drama.

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[jfargo.livejournal.com]

That's actually very cool. I love that her supervisor stuck up for the both of you, and that your boss..while unhappy..could see the real importance was in dealing with the ethics and attitudes, not what you do in your off time.

It's also really interesting to me (in a smirking kind of way) that your lady tested you before agreeing to see you. That definately got a grin out of me.

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>It's also really interesting to me (in a smirking kind of way) that your lady tested you before agreeing to see you. That definately got a grin out of me.

I think that was my favorite part of the story too :)

-tt