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jmfargoYesterday I bought Maria a wireless card for her new laptop as a birthday present. Sure, her birthday is roughly (exactly) a month and a day away, but she got a new laptop so she could work while just sitting on the couch (freelancers = lazy asses, even when they're good at what they do), and realized she hadn't gotten a wireless laptop. So, present number one was an easy find.
Now, however, I've unleased a monster, and it's not her. Simply, I have made a good gift choice, and thus I will want to make better choices as the weeks progress. I almost see this as a last chance.
See, in the past, Maria's birthdays have been decidedly unspectacular affairs in which I am usually poor, without a job, and her presents are cards made of computer paper. Oh, I've redeemed myself once or twice, but I will never live down the birthday that I bought her fantasty books. I still maintain that they were purchased for her, and not me!
So this year is my come-back year. I have a job, money, and have been with her long enough to know that books won't work, and neither will video games - no matter how cool I think Oblivion may be.
And yet still I'm lost.
Oh, sure, I know that I could get her practical stuff and she'd be deleriously happy. She loves practical gifts that can be used around the house, or gifts like painting the dining room back into a more normal color than the red I painted it as her Christmas gift, but that's not the point, to me, of birthdays.
Birthdays are supposed to be fun, with gifts that you play with, and things that you can enjoy. Most of the gifts that she would ask for are not these things, in my opinion. I mean, the wireless card that I bought her for her laptop? Okay, see, that's practical, and fun. It allows her to relax on the couch while surfing the internet - a very nice gift that we can both appreciate its uses.
But where do I go from here? What other things are fun and practical? I have time to figure it out, and if I ask her what she wants, she'll be more than happy to point things out, but it's nicer when I can surprise her, when I see that look of "Wow! That's perfect!" I guess I'll just have to think, and think hard. Being observant might help too, but who's observant these days?
Now, however, I've unleased a monster, and it's not her. Simply, I have made a good gift choice, and thus I will want to make better choices as the weeks progress. I almost see this as a last chance.
See, in the past, Maria's birthdays have been decidedly unspectacular affairs in which I am usually poor, without a job, and her presents are cards made of computer paper. Oh, I've redeemed myself once or twice, but I will never live down the birthday that I bought her fantasty books. I still maintain that they were purchased for her, and not me!
So this year is my come-back year. I have a job, money, and have been with her long enough to know that books won't work, and neither will video games - no matter how cool I think Oblivion may be.
And yet still I'm lost.
Oh, sure, I know that I could get her practical stuff and she'd be deleriously happy. She loves practical gifts that can be used around the house, or gifts like painting the dining room back into a more normal color than the red I painted it as her Christmas gift, but that's not the point, to me, of birthdays.
Birthdays are supposed to be fun, with gifts that you play with, and things that you can enjoy. Most of the gifts that she would ask for are not these things, in my opinion. I mean, the wireless card that I bought her for her laptop? Okay, see, that's practical, and fun. It allows her to relax on the couch while surfing the internet - a very nice gift that we can both appreciate its uses.
But where do I go from here? What other things are fun and practical? I have time to figure it out, and if I ask her what she wants, she'll be more than happy to point things out, but it's nicer when I can surprise her, when I see that look of "Wow! That's perfect!" I guess I'll just have to think, and think hard. Being observant might help too, but who's observant these days?
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Date: 2006-04-30 06:55 pm (UTC)And if only she could read this post. Girls....well we're fairly simple. Her just reading this post would delite her.....to see that you're concerned and making an effort to just go above and beyond for her.
A hint though, when I say I want something, even if it's inexpensive or "practical" it means I actually want it. There's been times where I wanted something small and inexpensive and my boyfriend to make up for my last birthday purchased something way too pricey but nice nonetheless. While I was very happy and loved what he got...I was kinda bummed I didn't get that one thing I wanted. Maybe I'm just an ungrateful bitch....but usually if we point something out...we generally want it. I dunno I'm blabbing.
You're a sweetheart though just to take so much time fretting about it
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Date: 2006-05-01 11:48 pm (UTC)So, we'll have to figure out a schedule for that one sometime.
-tt
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Date: 2006-05-02 12:55 pm (UTC)Or something. :)
I'm figuring it'd be easier for her to show us there since it won't involve actually moving any of the necessary pieces, and the fact that you've come over here so much (all that gas and tolls) makes me figure it's our turn to make the trek.
That's only if you want us there, of course. You're more than welcome to both come back here too.
We'll figure something out, I'm sure.
Maybe she likes...
Date: 2006-05-02 02:34 am (UTC)- Home-cooked meal
- Comfy pillow
- New sneakers
- New flip-flops
- Maid to clean the house
- Clean/wash/wax Bob
- Paint dining room
- Paint bathroom
- You with a bow :-)
Re: Maybe she likes...
Date: 2006-05-03 12:56 am (UTC)You obviously don't know Maria at all.
Geesh.